Why do we yield to domestic violence?


This was stolen a few weeks ago, from a site somewhere.... i can't remember. So um sorry ....













I’m here trying to analyze this domestic violence issue and I must say that from the outside it is easy to make logical decisions for most of these women, but I’m forgetting that relationships between men and women involved in domestic violence is extremely dependent. They are other things intertwined in the situation such as children, money and love. These things play a major role and are affecting and tailoring the situation.

In most cases I think that these women feel that they have some control over the situation but why can’t they grasp that it is just an illusion and the apologies they receive after the beating are almost always never sincere, it is just a way for their abuser to justify what he has done.

Why do most women feel that there is hope for the relationship just because he says I love you? Do they really think that it is love? Are they saying that if he strangles you until you see death’s door or tries to mutilate your body he loves you? I know that most women would respond to the above mentioned questions with some robotic explanation to justify why they go back, unaware that we the future generation do not pay attention to what they say. An action speaks louder than words.  

Why do  most of these women do this to themselves………Come on are you really going to fool yourself into believing that when he says that he is sorry it will automatically erases your scars… emotionally and physically? And who are you fooling when you act with pride and optimism? I know….yes I do know that he has stripped you from all the self respect, hope and sanguinity you had. Now you do think that you deserve the mistreatment and now you are compelled to settle for less because that is all you know and want.




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  • Stolid Charisma  On March 13, 2009 at 12:26 pm

    Wanita Huburn should be abused.

  • Sly the N.W.S.C.  On March 14, 2009 at 12:52 pm

    Judging from your content here, I see that you haven’t made the most of the talks we’ve had on this topic/issue. Your analysis/examination needs to be a bit more objective and not just based on the few people and experiences that you have become familiar with. However, I do agree with allot of what you say here.

  • axenic  On January 5, 2011 at 9:15 pm

    Domestic violence…hmmmmmm! I do concur that women tend to stay bcuz of money, love, children , etc but what i found over the last decade of dealing with abused women is that they still believe that certain behavioural traits in men are legitimate. So the whole culture of Patriarchy is accepted and passed down. Most of these women continue to inculcate some of the same principles that got them that broken arm into their sons and daughters (which to some extent they are setting their daughters up for the same licking).
    My point is this, we need radical transformation of values and customs. We can call it a gender issue , man and woman story or whatever u like but the truth of the matter is, we need to make domestic violence everybody’s business from the Religious groups to the Political system, neighbor, uncle, aunt, child and even the passer-by. I dont care if them religious ppl say man is the head of the home, what i am concerned about is the effort religious groups can put into dealing with women being killed and beaten. For me, they have to change with the times becuz they are also calculated as being a apart of the equation of domestic violence. What ppl need to take very importantly though is the double standards they/we raise our boys and girls with.


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